Family Constellations with Edwina Van Der Westhuizen
There are many patterns that repeat in families for generations. Even if we consciously decide we are not going to repeat them, unconsciously we find we actually are, or they are affecting the way we live our life.... what can we do? Family Constellations group workshops are aimed at looking our relationships with:
• particularly our parents (alive or passed)
• grandparents and siblings
• our health
• our relationship with a partner, ex partner
• and with our children.
The history you share with your family begins before you are even conceived. In your earliest biological form as an unfertilized egg you already share a cellular environment with your mother and grandmother.
When your grandmother was five months pregnant with your mother, the precursor cell of the egg you developed from was already present in your mother's ovaries.
That means before you were even born, your mother, your grandmother, and the earliest traces of you were all in the same body - three generations sharing the same biological environment.
Your inception can be similarly traced in your paternal line. The precursor cells of the sperm you developed from were present in your father when he was a fetus in his mothers womb. Your father's sperm continue to multiple when he reaches puberty, where as your mother was born with her lifetime supply of eggs.
With that we can begin to map out how the biological residue of traumas your grandmother experienced can be passed down, with far-reaching consequences.
With this in mind imagine this scenario: A month before your mother is born, your grandmother receives the devastating new that her husband has been killed in an accident. With a new baby to prepare for, and little space to grieve the loss, your grandmother would likely submerge her emotions into the body she now shared with her daughter and grandchild. You and your mother would know something about that grief from a deep place inside you, a place all three of you share...
So maybe it did not start with you!
The patterns from previous generations can often become embedded in the family behaviours and attitudes that they seem to be 'normal', even when they are destructive. They may be so intimately integrated into our view of who we are that we are unable to see an alternative way of living, loving and relating, and unable to break out of a cycle of behaviour that we no longer want.
7th October, Introductory Workshop, 2-5.30pmThe Healthy Hub Wellness Centre.
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