Does it feel like the world has gone crazy? Sometimes I feel like I am in a movie. There is so much fear and panic in the world right now.
Covid19 has changed how we live our ordinary daily lives, we need to find ways to calm our minds and bodies.
If you are struggling to stay positive at the moment, try following these tips that have helped me:
1. Don't Put Your Head in the Sand
No matter what you are dealing with, ignoring it is rarely the answer. While ignoring problems might feel good in the short-term, it will sap your long-term positivity. Plus, many of the other tips listed here require you to acknowledge your circumstances first. Many of us are facing financial challenges as a result of the coronavirus. If this is the case for you, take stock of your finances and seek out options for getting support. In Australia, for example, there is government support available for businesses and those who have lost their jobs as a result of the virus.
2. This Too Shall Pass
When you are in the midst of a crisis, like we are now, it is nearly impossible to keep things in perspective. That said, these lockdowns are temporary. Things might seem dire or stressful at the moment, but try your best to remember that "this too shall pass."
3. Make a Plan
One of the single best things you can do to maintain positivity during tough times is to make a plan on how to deal with it. When you focus on the solution rather than the problem, you will naturally feel more positive. You will feel like you are rising to the challenge. As we come to terms with the "current normal" (I would rather not say the "new normal") it can help to have a plan for your day and week. Many of us are now housebound, so we need to develop new routines to create a sense of calm in our lives. This is especially true for children as they thrive on routines.
4. Think About the Things You are Grateful For
Even during great personal turmoil, you still have things you are grateful for. When things get tough, it is vital to remember that there is good in the world, and more importantly, in your life. When you are struggling, take some time to list the things in your life you are grateful for. I have a daily gratitude practice that keeps me focused on the beauty and benefits of what we are going through.
While you could focus on what you can't do, it is more healthy for you to focus on what you can do. Each night over dinner, your family could share their daily gratitudes. Perhaps you are spending more time together as a family. You might have more time for gardening, writing, or reading a book. Perhaps you are enjoying not commuting to work.
There are blessings arising from the coronavirus, you just need to look for them.
5. Reach Out for Support
Support in and support out! Reach out to loved ones and offer your support. Reach out if you need assistance too. It is always reaffirming when people pull together and help each other. Perhaps you can hold a family dinner on zoom one night a week. Or message different friends each day and check on them. And if you need support, ask. People don't often know what you are going through and what you need if you don't let them know.
6. Take a Break
Sometimes our circumstances are tough, we often think about our problems constantly. It is OK to take a break from the worry. You can take a break from the news, social media, or other people. It might not be easy but taking a break from external stimuli can help keep you positive.
7. Journal Your Feelings
For those that known me, I adore journaling because it is such a powerful tool in so many ways. By simply giving you a place to express your fears and concerns, a journal helps you maintain positivity and perspective outside of its pages. Do you know how good it feels to vent to a friend? Well, consider your journal as your best friend. I have some free journaling resources for you. (Get free resources now!)
8. Focus on Things You Can Control
When your world seems like it is spinning out of control, you may feel helpless. Right now, we do not know how long we will be sequestered in our homes. We don't know when life will return to normal. One way to address this and stay more positive is to focus on the things you can control. Instead of fretting about things out of your control, focus on making sure you do your best job on the things you can control. You can control how you spend your time, what you are focusing on, and choose to do something positive for yourself every day.
9. Embrace Distractions (Netflix anyone?)
Distractions are usually the worst. We are often trying to learn how to avoid or deal with them. They aren't that bad when you are struggling to stay positive in tough times, though. No matter how silly they seem, you should embrace distractions that bring you joy in tumultuous times. Watch a funny movie. Go out in the garden. Read a good book. Make love to your partner!
(Netflix have a new feature called Netflix Party where you can watch shows with someone else at another location and chat while you watch it - www.netflixparty.com)
10. Take a Social Media Break for One Day a Week (at least)
One of the things that has helped me the most is to get off social media. I normally try to get off social media on Saturdays and Sundays and spend time with my family. I don't always do this perfectly, but when I do, I feel so refreshed by Monday morning. During this time of Covid19, this has become even more important to me because of the fear and negativity online.
- Write down your feelings
Think about everything you are dealing with and how it's affecting you and write that down. Don't worry about grammar or spelling; just focus on getting your feelings out of your head and onto paper.
- Reach out
Whether you are reaching out to offer support or request it, reaching out will help you feel like part of a community. When we all work together, we can overcome anything.
- Make a Plan
Think about what your biggest struggle is right now and devise a plan to tackle it. Set some goals and deadlines. You will feel more positive by just having the plan, and even more positive if you act on it.
I hope these tips and actionable steps help you!
Take care. Stay well.
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